Good Grief

Letter from the Associate Editor

By Sabrina Jonas

As Montrealers, we learned long ago that mourning those summer days with a seven-month-long pout won’t bring them back. Blasphemous, I know. Instead, we’ve become accustomed to winter’s spectacle of death: trees die, cars are buried, and flowers cease to bloom.While botanical demise is natural to us, even mundane, death confounds reason when it affects those we love.

Grief takes a psychological, social and physical toll unbeknownst to those who have yet to experience it. But we all will. So why aren’t we talking about it? Cultural taboo. We fear grief, so we ignore it, which isolates those going through it. But it’s time to acknowledge the good that it offers. “Death implodes your life, but grief puts it back together,” grief counselor Joe Primo said in a TEDx Talk.

It serves a purpose. It’s the connection kept alive with the departed. Grief shows us how strongly and unselfishly we can love another person. It’s emotional emancipation to feel deeply. It’s more than learning to deal with loss.

A wise journalist, force to be reckoned with and nucleus of knowledge once told me, “A blank page is both a blessing and a curse. But get the words on it and they’ll arrange themselves.”

This Montreal-known matriarch’s sudden passing has breathed new life into her words. Grief is a double-edged sword. But get the words, the emotions, the tears out; don’t stifle them, and the shattered pieces will reassemble themselves in time.

And as I sit here grappling with my own immortality, I’m struck by the reality of all those clichés. Do live life to the fullest; it is only so long.

But healthy living is as much psychological as it is physical. Take time; prioritize your needs, think often and fondly of those you love and lost. Because while life is finite, love never dies.

Opt for a long journey enSanté and enjoy the ride.

 

Winter 2020, Vol 12 N°1

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